Kandace Rather
Kandace is a woman who courageously and cautiously goes into the depths of healing childhood trauma with those who are ready. She knows the unfortunate experience of being retraumatized in a therapeutic setting, and therefore, seeks to offer a deeply kind and safe space for others to heal. Kandace is committed to stay on the path of doing her own healing work and continues to meet with her Story Work Coach. It’s from this space she invites others to the wonder of living a beautifully compassionate life towards self and others. As you join in to listen to Sher and Kandace process trauma outloud, may it spark your own curiosity on what having a kind witness to your stories of harm can mean for your own healing and the healing of those you love. B.A. in Psychology from Pittsburg State University Certified Traumatic Grief & Loss Care Provider (The MISS Foundation) Apprenticeship in Narrative-Focused Counseling (Twelve Stones Indiana) Completion of Narrative Focused Trauma Care (The Allender Center)
Appears in 154 Episodes
Episode 155 | River of Desire: With You Now
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss Kandace’s experience with the shame of believing something was wrong with her in her teenage years. Understanding our stor...
Episode 154 | River of Desire: Overcoming Shame
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to know that we have everything we need to be okay. If we can just imagine ourselves in a river of desire wh...
Episode 153 | When Shame Brings Dysregulation | Interview with Coach Patria
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around the topic of shame. Join Kandace and Sher is their Coach Patria Diehl Rector with The Broken and ...
Episode 152 | A War On Shame | Interview with Coach Patria
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around the topic of shame. Join Kandace and Sher is their Coach Patria Diehl Rector with The Broken and ...
Episode 151 | How Shame Lies To Us And the Truth Sets Us Free
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their series of war on shame. When the lies of shame come into the light through the power of real love, freedom comes to...
Episode 150 | How Do We Heal Shame?
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussions focused on a war on shame. With a desire to heal shame, we have to be able to locate it in our stories ...
Episode 149 | How Shame Feels In Our Bodies
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a series of discussions focused on a war on shame. With a desire to heal shame, we have to be able to locate it in our stori...
Episode 148 | Freedom From the Grips of Shame
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher revisit the topic of shame. Can you recall the first time you experienced feelings of being bad, or that something was wrong with ...
Episode 147 | Reflections On Being A Woman Of Desire
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap of their series on being women of desire. Healing from childhood trauma means connecting with our good desires for our own li...
Episode 146 | Women of Desire: Question Three - Kandace's Answer
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a series of questions to ask their listeners, as well as answer for themselves around the topic of desire. When we’ve exp...
Episode 145 | Women of Desire: Question Three - Sher's Answer
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a series of questions to ask their listeners, as well as answer for themselves around the topic of desire. When we’ve exp...
Episode 144 | Women of Desire: Question Two
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a series of questions to ask their listeners, as well as answer for themselves around the topic of desire. When we’ve exp...
Episode 143 | Women of Desire: Question One
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a series of questions to ask their listeners, as well as answer for themselves around the topic of desire. When we’ve experi...
Episode 142 | On Desire: Needy Women - Pt. 2
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a discussion on what it means to be a woman of desire. Before we can know what we desire, we have to come to terms with t...
Episode 141 | On Desire: Needy Women
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher begin a series of discussions on what it means to be a woman of desire. Before we can know what we desire, we have to come to term...
Episode 140 | On Being Connected To Our Body | Part Three
On today’s episode, Kandace and Sher bring their final episode in a three-part series on what it means as women to be connected to our body. When we’ve experienced chi...
Episode 139 | On Being Connected To Our Body | Part Two
On today’s episode, Kandace and Sher bring part two on what it means as women to be connected to our body. When we’ve experienced childhood trauma, we can become disco...
Episode 138 | On Being Connected To Our Body
On today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a three-part series on what it means as women to be connected to our body. When we’ve experienced childhood trauma, we can b...
Episode 137 | Invitation To Wild Womanhood
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start off the New Year (And Sher’s birthday) with big hope to lean into what it means to be a wild woman in the year 2025 and beyo...
Episode 136 | End of the Year: Dreaming
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up 2024 talking about dreaming. The more we heal, the more we dream. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss what they are drea...
Episode 135 | End of the Year: Grieving
In today’s episode Kandace and Sher discuss the topic of grieving as they close out the year 2024. Facing our grief, feeling our grief, and releasing our grief is our ...
Episode 134 | End of the Year: Releasing
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to release those things in our lives that no longer reflect the truth of who we are. As 2025 approaches, lis...
Episode 133 | End of the Year: Reflections
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a 4-part end of the year series focusing on different topics and questions to take you into the new year. Listen in as Kanda...
Episode 132 | Expressing Gratitude
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher carve out time to express what they are currently grateful for. Going into the holidays usually holds a mix of emotions for most p...
Episode 131 | Healing In Groups
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss a recent group retreat they attended in Omaha, Nebraska. Though most people start their healing journey with one on one ca...
Episode 130 | Self-Contempt
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude their group discussion around the topic of self-contempt. Self-contempt is a painful emotion where we turn against oursel...
Episode 129 | Trauma Bonds
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a group discussion around the topic of trauma bounds. Understanding the nature of our connections with others can help us...
Episode 128 | What is Differentiation?
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher have the privilege of interviewing three women who are on a mission to help other women heal from childhood trauma, and current-da...
Episode 127 | How We Heal Generational Trauma
In today’s episode, Kandace interviews Sher about her journey of the healing generational trauma from childhood abuse. Sharing our stories of harm with safe people who...
Episode 126 | Why We Heal Generational Trauma
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the importance of healing generational trauma. The courage it’s takes to tell the truth is a gift we can give to future ge...