Kandace Rather
Kandace is a woman who courageously and cautiously goes into the depths of healing childhood trauma with those who are ready. She knows the unfortunate experience of being retraumatized in a therapeutic setting, and therefore, seeks to offer a deeply kind and safe space for others to heal. Kandace is committed to stay on the path of doing her own healing work and continues to meet with her Story Work Coach. It’s from this space she invites others to the wonder of living a beautifully compassionate life towards self and others. As you join in to listen to Sher and Kandace process trauma outloud, may it spark your own curiosity on what having a kind witness to your stories of harm can mean for your own healing and the healing of those you love. B.A. in Psychology from Pittsburg State University Certified Traumatic Grief & Loss Care Provider (The MISS Foundation) Apprenticeship in Narrative-Focused Counseling (Twelve Stones Indiana) Completion of Narrative Focused Trauma Care (The Allender Center)
Appears in 162 Episodes
Episode 133 | End of the Year: Reflections
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a 4-part end of the year series focusing on different topics and questions to take you into the new year. Listen in as Kanda...
Episode 132 | Expressing Gratitude
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher carve out time to express what they are currently grateful for. Going into the holidays usually holds a mix of emotions for most p...
Episode 131 | Healing In Groups
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss a recent group retreat they attended in Omaha, Nebraska. Though most people start their healing journey with one on one ca...
Episode 130 | Self-Contempt
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude their group discussion around the topic of self-contempt. Self-contempt is a painful emotion where we turn against oursel...
Episode 129 | Trauma Bonds
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a group discussion around the topic of trauma bounds. Understanding the nature of our connections with others can help us...
Episode 128 | What is Differentiation?
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher have the privilege of interviewing three women who are on a mission to help other women heal from childhood trauma, and current-da...
Episode 127 | How We Heal Generational Trauma
In today’s episode, Kandace interviews Sher about her journey of the healing generational trauma from childhood abuse. Sharing our stories of harm with safe people who...
Episode 126 | Why We Heal Generational Trauma
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the importance of healing generational trauma. The courage it’s takes to tell the truth is a gift we can give to future ge...
Episode 125 | Processing the Topic of Power - Part Three
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up a three-part series on looking at power dynamics within our closet relationships. Understanding our history with feeling p...
Episode 124 | Processing the Topic of Power - Part Two
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion on the topic of power and powerlessness. When we start to express what we need, it can feel scary! But, ...
Episode 123 | Processing the Topic of Power
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher kick-off a three-part series around what it means to be powerless and feel powerless. If a person feels they have no options, how ...
Episode 122 | Am I Resilient or Fragile?
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher explore what it means to be fragile or resilient within the context of our relationships. To slow down and notice when we feel anx...
Episode 121 | A Look At How We Process Grief & Loss | Part Two
In today's episode, Kandace and Sher continue their conversation around grief and loss. Having the support we need in times of deep loss is essential for our healing j...
Episode 120 | A Look At How We Process Grief & Loss | Part One
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a two-part series discussing the topic of grief and loss. Though everyone’s journey with grief and loss is unique to them, t...
Episode 119 | What Five Years of Healing Looks Like | Part Four
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up their series on what their healing journey has looked like over the last five years. The impact of childhood trauma can la...
Episode 118 | What Five Years of Healing Looks Like | Part Three
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their series reflecting on the past five years of healing from the wounds of childhood trauma. Listen in as Kandace engag...
Episode 117 | What Five Years of Healing Looks Like | Part Two
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their series reflecting on the past five years of healing from the wounds of childhood trauma. Listen in as Sher engages ...
Episode 116 | What Five Years of Healing Looks Like
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a four-part series reflecting on the past five years and how life looks as we heal from childhood trauma. There’s more to th...
Episode 115 | Dysregulation and Somatic Practices | Part Two
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher get into the specifics of what it means to regulate our nervous system through somatic practices. Being aware of our body’s sensat...
Episode 114 | Noticing Dysregulation | Part One
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss their journeys on learning what it means to notice dysregulation in our bodies and why that’s important. The more aware we...
Episode 113 | Setting Boundaries | Part Four
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up a 4-part series on setting boundaries within our relationships. One of the hardest situations we can be in is when our bou...
Episode 112 | Setting Boundaries | Part Three
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around boundaries. Setting boundaries is a gift we can give in all our relationships in order to foster ...
Episode 111 | Setting Boundaries | Part Two
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the discussion on what it looks like to set healthy boundaries in our lives. One of the hardest things we can feel is tha...
Episode 110 | Meet Stephanie & Kate: Upcoming Story Group
In today’s episode, Kandace & Sher have the honor of interviewing Stephanie and Kate about their upcoming story group. Stephanie & Kate also share a little bit of thei...
Episode 109 | Setting Boundaries | Part One
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a four-part series on what it means to set boundaries coming from a trauma-informed perspective. When we are healing from CP...
Episode 108 | When Trauma and Spirituality Collide: An Interview
In today’s episode, Kandace continues to tell Sher the story of her recent traumatic experience at a local park in her community. Listen in as Kandace and Sher make a ...
Episode 107 | When Harm Happens, Talk It Out | Part Two
In today’s episode, Kandace continues to tell Sher the story of her recent traumatic experience at a local park in her community. Listen in as Kandace and Sher make a ...
Episode 106 | When Harm Happens, Talk It Out | Part One
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher walk through a recent traumatic event Kandace experienced at one of her local walking parks. Traumatic events that get processed i...
Episode 105 | Revisiting Attachment Wounds
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher revisit the conversation around attachment styles and healing our attachment wounds. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss what it...
Episode 104 | Did Your Voice Matter? Part 2
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss more on the topic of what it was like to use our voice as a child. Listen in as Kandace engages Sher in a recent story whe...