Kandace Rather
Kandace is a woman who courageously and cautiously goes into the depths of healing childhood trauma with those who are ready. She knows the unfortunate experience of being retraumatized in a therapeutic setting, and therefore, seeks to offer a deeply kind and safe space for others to heal. Kandace is committed to stay on the path of doing her own healing work and continues to meet with her Story Work Coach. It’s from this space she invites others to the wonder of living a beautifully compassionate life towards self and others. As you join in to listen to Sher and Kandace process trauma outloud, may it spark your own curiosity on what having a kind witness to your stories of harm can mean for your own healing and the healing of those you love. B.A. in Psychology from Pittsburg State University Certified Traumatic Grief & Loss Care Provider (The MISS Foundation) Apprenticeship in Narrative-Focused Counseling (Twelve Stones Indiana) Completion of Narrative Focused Trauma Care (The Allender Center)
Appears in 154 Episodes
Episode Sixty-Five | How To Care For Our Inner-Critic
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to have an inner-critic. Critical thoughts that seem to control us can be confronted and cared for. Listen i...
Episode Sixty-Four | Is There a Formula for Healing: Embracing Mystery
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher process how healing often involves mystery. If we’ve had childhood trauma, we will think we need certainty to feel safe. But what ...
Episode Sixty-Three | Reclaiming Your Creativity With Sher
In today’s episode Sher discusses what it means to reclaim our creativity when we’ve experienced complex childhood trauma. Listen in as Sher tells of her personal expe...
Episode Sixty-Two | Hard But Worth It: Healing An Attachment Wound
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher reveal their own attachment wound coming from experiencing complex childhood trauma. For those who have experienced complex childh...
Episode Sixty-One | Hard But Worth It: Identifying Hidden Beliefs & Perceptions
In today’s episode, Kandace & Sher discuss another topic in their series on things that are hard to do on the healing journey, but worth doing. Identifying and discove...
Episode Sixty | Hard But Worth It: Believing We Are Loved
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to believe we are worthy of love coming from a history of complex childhood trauma. Though it can be extreme...
Episode Fifty-Nine | Speaking the Unspeakable With Sher
In todays episode, Sher talks about the importance of having someone to tell our hardest stories to. Those stories we feel we can never tell anyone, but long to be fre...
Episode Fifty-Eight | Step Three Of Healing From Self-Betrayal
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up their 4-part series of how we heal from the painful experiences of self-betrayal. In this final step, they discuss why slo...
Episode Fifty-Seven | Step Two Of Healing From Self-Betrayal
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the importance of listening to our bodies as a means of discovering what we need. Understanding what dysregulation is and ...
Episode Fifty-Six | Step One Of Healing From Self-Betrayal
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher further the conversation on what it means to heal from self-betrayal. The first step is naming the truth of our correct situation ...
Episode Fifty-Five | Three Steps To End Self Betrayal
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to betray ourselves because of the complex childhood trauma we experienced. Self-betrayal is a painful adapt...
Episode Fifty-Four | Spiritual Bypassing: Part Two
What To Do Instead of Spiritual BypassingIn today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the conversation on spiritual bypassing and offer ways we can avoid using it. Li...
Episode Fifty-Three | Spiritual Bypassing: Part One
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what spiritual bypassing is and how it has influenced their healing journey. Spiritual bypassing is one way we avoid feeli...
Episode Fifty-Two | What We’ve Learned After One Year Of Podcasting
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss why they keep showing up each week to record Processing Trauma Out Loud and the lessons they have learned over the last ye...
Episode Fifty-One | Healing From An Abandonment Wound - Part Three
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude their series on what it means to have an abandonment wound and how we heal. The hope of healing this wound from experienc...
Episode Fifty | Healing From An Abandonment Wound - Part Two
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher further their discussion on what it means to have an abandonment wound. Listen in as they share stories and describe this painful ...
Episode Forty-Nine | Healing From An Abandonment Wound
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means when we have experienced an abandonment wound in childhood. Being left alone repeatedly as a child, especial...
Episode Forty-Eight | Kandace’s Journey With Grief
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what grieving has historically looked like for Kandace and how the recent loss of her brother has impacted her. Listen in ...
Episode Forty-Six | What If I Can Say I Have Complex PTSD?
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it could mean if we are able to express what we need when we feel triggered in our closest relationships. Confessing ...
Episode Forty-Five | Habitual Misattunement Is A Big Deal
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the complex trauma we experience when we have habitual misattunement in childhoood. Listen in as Kandace and Sher explain ...
Episode Forty-Four | Why Attunement Matters
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what attunement means and why it’s so important for healthy childhood development. Listen is as Kandace and Sher start a c...
Episode Forty-Three | Our Epic Story of Glory: Part Three
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up their three part series on looking at how trauma seeks to mar a person’s glory. A person’s God-given identity - one who is...
Episode Forty-Two | Our Epic Story of Glory: Part Two
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the conversation about what it means that we have glory and what it looks like to reclaim who we were always created to b...
Episode Forty-One | Our Epic Story of Glory
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher give hope to those who have experienced complex childhood trauma by discussing what it means that we have glory. Though trauma oft...
Episode Forty | Body Hatred: Part Three
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher talk about what it means to heal from the painful emotional experiences of having body hatred. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discu...
Episode Thirty-Nine | Body Hatred: Part Two
In today’s episode Kandace and Sher discuss how Sher is doing after processing the story she brought last week to our listeners. Listen in as Kandace and Sher also tal...
Episode Thirty-Eight | Body Hatred: Part One
In this episode, Kandace and Sher begin the discussion of body hatred and how we come to relate to and feel about our bodies. Both Kandace and Sher process their own s...
Episode Thirty-Seven | Part 2 with Patria Diehl Rector
In this episode Kandace and Sher continue the conversation with Kandace’s story Coach, Patria. Listen in as this episode is packed with deep content around bearing the...
Episode Thirty-Six | Meet Patria Diehl Rector, Kandace’s Story Coach
In today’s episode Kandace interviews her Trauma-Informed Story Work Coach. Listen in to hear more details about what Story Work is, what having choices really means, ...
Episode Thirty-Five | Reenactments: Part Two
In this 2-part series, Kandace and Sher discuss what reenactments are, how we end up in them, and how to move out of them. Unhealthy reenactments cause pain to ourselv...