Kandace Rather
Kandace is a woman who courageously and cautiously goes into the depths of healing childhood trauma with those who are ready. She knows the unfortunate experience of being retraumatized in a therapeutic setting, and therefore, seeks to offer a deeply kind and safe space for others to heal. Kandace is committed to stay on the path of doing her own healing work and continues to meet with her Story Work Coach. It’s from this space she invites others to the wonder of living a beautifully compassionate life towards self and others. As you join in to listen to Sher and Kandace process trauma outloud, may it spark your own curiosity on what having a kind witness to your stories of harm can mean for your own healing and the healing of those you love. B.A. in Psychology from Pittsburg State University Certified Traumatic Grief & Loss Care Provider (The MISS Foundation) Apprenticeship in Narrative-Focused Counseling (Twelve Stones Indiana) Completion of Narrative Focused Trauma Care (The Allender Center)
Appears in 154 Episodes
Episode Thirty-Four | Reenactments: Coming To Terms With Our Life Patterns
In this 2-part series, Kandace and Sher discuss what reenactments are, how we end up in them, and how to move out of them. Unhealthy reenactments cause pain to ourselv...
Episode Thirty-Three | Owning Our Story
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher talk about what it means to own our stories with compassion for what we struggle with today. When our stories encounter the love a...
Episode Thirty-Two | End of the Year Reflections: Regrets & Celebrations
In Today’s episode, Kandace and Sher take the time to reflect back on 2022 and process what it means to notice areas we’ve grown in, regrets we may have, and the impor...
Episode Thirty-One | Reconnection After The Rupture: Part Four
In todays episode, Kandace and Sher are on their final episode looking at Rupture and repair. In today’s discussion, Kandace and Sher talk about reconnection after a r...
Episode Thirty | The Hope Of Repair: Part Three
In todays episode, Kandace and Sher are on part 3 of their 4 part series on rupture and repair. Today’s topic will look at what repair looks like, and how having these...
Episode Twenty-Nine | The Role Of Regulation In Repair: Part Two
In todays episode, Kandace and Sher continue a 4-part series discussing rupture and repair in our most meaningful relationships. Today’s topic will look at why it’s im...
Episode Twenty-Eight | Rupture In Relationships: Part One
In todays episode, Kandace and Sher start a 4-part series discussing rupture and repair in our most meaningful relationships. Today’s topic will look at what rupture i...
Episode Twenty-Seven | Gratitude, Holiday Dinners & Just Breathe
In this episode, Kandace and Sher celebrate 6 months of podcasting and express the gratitude of where their healing journey has lead them. They also share some tips on...
Episode Twenty-Six | Your Relationship With Grief
In this episode, Kandace and Sher continue the conversation around grief and loss. Slowing down and allowing our grief to be honored can lead to powerful shifts toward...
Episode Twenty-Five | Childhood Grief and Loss
In this episode, Kandace and Sher process what it means to have grief and loss coming from complex childhood trauma. They invite you to reflect on your own journey wit...
Episode Twenty-Four | Laurie Further Explains Parts Work
In this episode, Kandace and Sher continue the discussion with Laurie about parts work. Laurie explains more about parts work and how it allows us to unburden parts of...
Episode Twenty-Three | Meet Laurie Proctor: Sher’s Story Work Coach
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In today’s episode, Sher introduces ...
Episode Twenty-Two | Understanding Parts Work
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In this episode, Kandace and Sher di...
Episode Twenty-One | Healing An Insecure Attachment
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In today’s episode, Sher and Kandace ...
Episode Twenty | Attachment: A Really Big Deal
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. Kandace and Sher start a 2-part serie...
Episode Nineteen | The Impact of Inner-Child Work
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher ...
Episode Eighteen | Story Work Coaches Changed Our Lives
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher ...
Episode Seventeen | Tools to Calm the Limbic Brain
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In this episode, Kandace and Sher con...
Episode Sixteen | Understanding the Limbic Brain
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In this episode, Kandace and Sher talk a...
Episode Fifteen | Meet Our Brave Story Group Sisters
On today's episode you get to hear from Kandace and Sher's Story Group community and why they continue to show up every week and offer one another on-going care. Doing...
Episode Fourteen | Story Groups: A Powerful Resource For Healing
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher ...
Episode Thirteen | Kandace's Story: Part Two
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In this episode, Sher re-engages Kandace...
Episode Twelve | Story Work: Kandace Shares A Personal Story
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In today’s episode Kandace reads a s...
Episode Eleven | The Invitation To Grieve Without Shame
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. The grief we feel when we become awa...
Episode Ten | The Process of Healing Shame
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In this final episode of their serie...
Episode Nine | How Shame Feels
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. Shame blocks love and for those who ...
Episode Eight | Dismantling The Lies of Shame
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. Shame sends us the message that we'r...
Episode Seven | Why Sharing Our Stories Of Harm Matter: Processing Sher’s Story
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher rev...
Episode Six | Introduction To Story Work: Sher Reads A Story Of Deep Harm
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. Today’s podcast comes with a trigger war...
Episode Five | Loyalty Structures: The Good And The Bad Of Remaining Loyal
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher tal...